I’ve always prided myself on being fairly open minded. I like to think I give the benefit of the doubt more often than not and I try my best to trust new people in my life until they do something that gives me reason not to. However, I’ve recently learned a bit of a lesson relating to this subject. It’s one thing to give someone a chance, to get to know someone before passing judgment, but it’s another to continue to allow someone chances just because you don’t have tangible proof something is awry, and despite the fact that there are hints in the form of huge red flags and bright, flashing neon signs around every corner warning that you ought to run quickly in the other direction.
As, “it is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust,” I’m going to continue to trust people and to even allow people to sometimes screw me over after I’ve put my trust in them. I don’t think it’s smart to become bitter and jaded and go around the world thinking everyone I meet has an agenda or ulterior motives in getting to know me. That will only cause me to become a nasty, unfriendly human being, and I have no interest in being that sort of person. If Anne Frank could feel that “…in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart,” surely I can continue to believe it as well.
You might think after this “revelation” I wouldn’t feel as I’ve stated above and I’d instead feel the opposite and decide to remove all trust from my life. No, I actually plan on adding more of it…this time in myself; my instincts. Sometimes your gut tells you something is off, whether it’s referring to a situation or another person or whatever, and often times I think I ignore that gut instinct because I think I should be that super trusting, open minded, blah blah blah person. I wait until there’s some concrete proof that the situation or person is shady, creepy, conniving…whatever the case may be, and I shouldn’t do that. There’s something to be said for that little voice in the back of your head, often times it really knows the deal, and occasionally it’s better to simply listen to it, and without factual evidence, turn in the opposite direction, and never look back.
The universe likes to throw things or folks at us to shake things up, challenge us or just see how we’ll react (at least, it likes doing that to me) and this is how I’d like to respond…Universe, cheers for this most recent lesson you have taught me. At this time, kindly take your shady people and your silly shenanigans and shove ‘em. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have a trip to Australia to plan and enjoy.

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May 13, 2010 at 11:05 pm
Harry
hooray!
May 25, 2010 at 10:57 am
Gina E
Oh dear, sounds like somebody has upset your apple cart in a big way…
I’m like you – happy to trust everyone until they turn on you. THEN, it’s bye bye.
May 25, 2010 at 1:46 pm
phoebeinaustralia
HAHA, upset my apple cart, I love it. Yeah, this person doesn’t deserve to know me any longer.
I sent you an e-mail a little bit ago, did you get it? No worries if you’ve been busy of course, I just want to be sure I wrote to the right address!
May 26, 2010 at 9:54 am
Mimi
Hey,
My husband and I are moving to Sydney next month – I’d love to follow your blog and hear about your move!
Thanks,
Mimi
May 26, 2010 at 4:15 pm
phoebeinaustralia
Hey Mimi,
Always good to have a new follower.
I’ve added your blog to my Google Reader too. What made you decide to move to Australia??
May 26, 2010 at 4:36 pm
Mimi
Well, my husband was looking for a new job and this company found him through a head-hunter and really courted him. The offer was really good and we decided to go cause it will be good for his career. I never would have imagined moving to another country; but here we are!
Everything just points towards this being the right thing…
(here’s hoping we’re right)
~Mimi
May 27, 2010 at 1:53 pm
phoebeinaustralia
Wow, that’s awesome. I’m sure it’ll be a great experience for both of you, and it’s so good to take chances, otherwise you’d always wonder what it might have been like had you decided to try living in a different country. I wish the Visa I was going on would allow me to stay longer than a year! We should definitely keep in touch…and if I get tired of Melbourne, I may end up in Sydney as well.
May 28, 2010 at 8:32 am
Mimi
Well, I won’t be working so I am looking forward to have as many visitors as possible
~Mimi
June 11, 2010 at 8:06 am
Gina E
Phoebe, I’m not sure if I got your email…I saw your comment on my Australian birds blog – is that what you meant?
You must be getting excited/nervous now – two months to go, is that right?
Not good timing weatherwise – Melbourne is still bloody cold in August! But we don’t get snow, if that is any consolation.